We asked the HVVHQ team to dig deep into their lives and share their greatest struggles, the lessons they took from that experience and any advice they would give to their past selves or anyone facing a similar struggle. Here are their stories:
“To quote Ralph Waldo Emerson: “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
As cliche as it sounds, my greatest struggle was and still is learning to be myself. Eventually I learnt that everybody has something unique to offer to this world. So embrace your true authenticity because it is so emotionally freeing and that is your power. Walk in your own truth!”
-Joy, Customer Service
“During my polytechnic and university years, I struggled with multiple skin conditions that I often felt I had no control over. I hated going out in public and withdrew socially.
From this time in my life, I learnt that we can be our own worst enemy and harshest critic. I learnt to be kinder on myself - especially when I wasn't feeling well or when I had a flare-up.
If you're going through a similar struggle that affects your self-esteem and is disrupting your daily life, allow yourself to be loved by and cared for by the people around you. They might not be able to fully empathise with you but through their love, you might remember how to love yourself again - and that is everything.”
“My greatest struggle is building up my confidence and self-esteem. I didn’t used to care about my looks until I got bullied in Secondary School. It wasn't until people started to call me names and make up false stories about me that my confidence hit an all-time low. Also, when I look at other girls with the archetypal perfect bodies, I always envy them and sometimes wish I could be like them.
Over the years as I learnt to rebuild my confidence, I’ve learnt that it’s normal to feel a lack of confidence in yourself but you get to decide to overcome it. We are all unique in our own ways and no one should feel like they don’t fit into society because we all do.
An advice that I would give my past self is that there will always be people who will bring you down and things will not always go your way. But you must always remember that others should not be given the chance to make you feel shitty because you’re special and beautiful in your own way! You’re not alone ♡”
-Amber, Creative Intern
“My greatest struggle in life would have to be letting go of the things I enjoyed doing and learning not to be too hard on myself. I had to let go of two of my favourite things - studying art and playing Hockey - to salvage my academic grades.
Since then, I’ve learnt how to balance out my time and am currently back to playing hockey after 6 years and now I also realised my ambition of being a designer by working as a full time creative designer.
The only advice I could give to my past self is that it’s alright to let go of the things you enjoy doing because they will come back to you if you know how to make time for it. Also, sometimes it’s okay to fail. Failing once doesn’t mean you’re going to fail forever. Don’t let it bother you. Instead, welcome it and re-try. Can’t deny that I have to go through the long way but it is really worth it.”
“My greatest struggle is getting out of a toxic relationship and I’ve learnt that you have to take steps to care for your mental health and physical well-being, because no one is going to do that for you. Sometimes because we love a person so much, we ignore the red flags, justify wrongs and neglect how we feel inside.
One advice I would give my past self is to be brave enough to stand up for yourself and for what is right. Your life is in your hands and you’re not always responsible for someone else’s happiness.”
"My greatest struggle is having hopes or expectations from the people around me. I learnt to understand and accept the fact that things don’t always turn out in the way I expected it to. Some advice I would give are:
1. Learn how to manage and deal with disappointments
2. Learn to lower or not have any hopes / expectations to minimise
disappointments ( this is negativity but it helps me)
3. Don’t harp on the issue and move on."